For my beloved father and for those who have loved and lost.
To my beloved, They say the heart is as big as a fist, The sorrow of loss for the one I love, Stems from the centre of my heart. The sorrow grows and grows, It fills my heart, it pours over. Until the sadness is as high as a mountain. Streams of tears flow from my eyes, Flooding my cheeks, Limitless teardrops of loss. How can I carry this weight of grief? Moment after moment, Day after month, After year and so many more years, The depth of sorrow feels the same, But I take comfort knowing that you loved me, I was special to you, As you are to me. Thank you for being in my life, Thank you for the laughs and smiles, And hugs and beauty you brought to all of my days. Thank you for your time and devotion, The dedication to our family, Thank you for your sacrifices. Thank you for being part of My Story, And I am part of your history Never forgotten Loved always. Thank you Allah I collect the sorrows and tears, And one by one place them back into my heart and memory. Safely stored away, A perfect fit, Bringing me warmth, Knowing you are with me, Until we meet once more. Sometimes I see a sunset and think of you, Sometimes it's a flower or fragrance, A taste or a tune. And I smile as I know, You have not left me really, There is no loss. You are here with me, In my habits and words and deeds. Your fingerprints scattered around my world if I look closely enough. We maybe separated but Time and Space Still, we are together in the Universe In my heart for eternity My loved one
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There is no better gift than our parents – these two individuals who always sacrifice everything for our happiness. Islam places great importance on being dutiful to parents. In a hadith narrated by Ibn Masud (may Allah have mercy upon him)
“A man asked the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon Him) “What deeds are most beloved to Allah?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: 1. To perform the daily compulsory prayers at their stated fixed times 2. To be good and dutiful to one’s parents 3. To participate in Jihaad in Allah’s cause. [Sahih Al-Bukhari] For those whose parents have become old and cannot act all modern, understand them and be patient with them. Show them that you care and that you still love communicating with them in their old languages. Please do not ignore them for your virtual friends. Please do not make them feel obliged to come to you and ask for your time. Please give it to them without asking. Once their heart is happy, your heart shall be satisfied too and; the rewards are certainly abundant. For those whose parents are busy with their own lives, do not let this make you feel neglected. Perhaps they are working so hard for you. Perhaps all these nights of struggles are for you to live a comfortable life. Do not whine but instead, try initiating a conversation with them. Make the first move and narrate your day to them. If they are busy, WhatsApp or text them but at least let them hear from you. Do not let this neglect from their part and affect the bond you share with your parents. Sometimes, we don’t know what others are going through until we come forward and talk to them. For those whose parents are no more, you can still love them. You are a sadaqah Jaariyah (Continuous charity) for them. Even if they are not in this world, they are still being rewarded for whatever good that you do. Be a good example and; make your parents proud. Give charity on their behalf, talk good about them and most importantly please always keep them in your du’as. There is nothing purer than du’as. Duas - The greatest weapon and shield for a believer. And finally, for those whose parents have sinned, do not push them away. We all err since the beginning of our lifetime. Just like the sin, Allah (The Most High) too forgives. Do not grow resentment for them for that is the act of Shaitaan wanting to destroy the purest relationship on earth. Forgive them and keep on doing good for them. There is absolutely no reason in Islam whereby; we are told not to be dutiful to our parents. Children should not follow a parent who went astray but we should always treat them with the utmost kindness. May Allah (The Most High) grant our parents the best here and in Akhirah. May we be a means by which they attain Jannat-ul-Firdaus, Insha Allah. Abu Huraira (may Allah mercy upon him) reported: A man asked the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) “Who is most deserving of my good company?” The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, “Your mother.” The man asked, “Then who?” The Prophet said “Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your mother.” The man asked again, “Then who?” The Prophet said, “Your father.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari] Mother,
Please hold me again so tender, Embrace this little girl’s body close to you, Let me hear the beat of your heart, How I missed that moments. Mother, For years you’ve been taking good care of me, Your child with kindness, Genuine and pure love come all from you, I’ve seen that beautifully, Your eyes show Eden exists, Mother it’s true there is Eden in your eyes. Any angel ever, Is you my truly angel, You love me so deep, So sweet, So honest, So peaceful, I feel safe, Your arms hold me, keep me feeling the warmth, And your face never look tired. Mother how I must be grateful to GOD, His blessings of making me your child, Having you as my mother, Is one of the real proof of God’s miracles, Yes indeed Mother, There is Eden in your Eyes. A house that never stays clean and children who have a mind of their own. What can you do to stay calm? You have finally finished the dishes and the kitchen looks tidy, but the surprise is waiting for you in the living room. Your blood pressure is raised so much that you lose control over yourself. The floor you wiped just moments ago is littered with toys, biscuit pieces and the juice spilt all over. Being a mother, the biggest challenge I face is being patient at so many such incidents in everyday life and I believe it’s the same with the majority of us. Let me admit: I FAIL in most of the cases! For us, patience is extremely important since Allah has mentioned it several times in the Qur’an and the rewards for it is really quite tempting. وَاصْبِرُوا ۚ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ and be patient. Indeed, Allah is with the patient. (Qur’an 8:46) إِلَّا الَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ أُولَـٰئِكَ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَأَجْرٌ كَبِيرٌ Except for those who are patient and do righteous deeds; those will have forgiveness and great reward. (Qur’an 11:11) Many more such verses enhance the importance of patience. As mothers it is very clear to us that being patient is not just about controlling our anger to be a good mother, but firstly it is to obey Allah. Here are some smart tactics to save yourself from regrets: So, the next time you see spilt water, cushions on the floor or the sofa being used as a trampoline, take a deep breath and say Alhamdullilah.
A final note: وَالْمَلَائِكَةُ يَدْخُلُونَ عَلَيْهِم مِّن كُلِّ بَابٍ سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُم بِمَا صَبَرْتُمْ ۚ فَنِعْمَ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ … And the angels will enter upon them from every gate, [saying], “Peace be upon you for what you patiently endured. And excellent is the final home.” (Qur’an 13:23-24) What more do we want? I pray that you and I be able to make an effort to be more patient. Ameen. Asqarini was born in Jakarta, Indonesia. She is a dreamer, poet, writer, volunteer in community projects. She has published many articles, short stories and poetry. She is fluent in English and can understand French. Mother, It took minutes for me to start a letter. And write these words and sentences. I've never been this speechless. I've known beautiful words But when it comes writing you All words seem meaningless It's indescribable For me to show you how much I really love you... Maybe this drop of tears Which distract the black ink of my pen Will show you how tears, Speaks louder than words. Knowing how much love I have for you. Father. I saw deep down. You are like an Angel, with a pure Heart. You cheered me up when I was a little. With the song of a lullaby and the Holy Verses. Taking Good Care of Me. With nothing in return. Only happiness and a smile in my lips, All you ever want God, Give Heaven to every Father in The World, Who has a pure heart as his soul. That has the perfect character. That has the perfect attitude. Placed him the Highest Throne. Jakarta, January 2015.
Assalam Alaikum (Peace be with you) Bismillah Al-Rahman Al-Raheem (In the name of Allah, Most Gracious Most Merciful) Let us learn how our mothers utilized themselves to provide for us. Mothers are one of the blessings from Allah (The Most High) and we cannot compare this naimah (blessing) with anything else in our lives. No matter how much or how many valuables you behold in your life right now. Your mother will always be your first love. When we were young, no matter how much we say or express our love for our mothers, we will not know the true beauty of motherhood until we become a mother ourselves. The sacrifices. The ups and downs that come along the journey. The struggle our mothers did in taking care of us. SubhanAllah (Glory be to Allah). For those who do not have mothers from the time they remembered or lost their mothers or for those who have been apart from their mothers for some reasons, do not lose your hopes because one day you will see your mother and hug her again in sha Allah (if Allah wills). For those whose mothers are still alive, cherish the moments spent with her. Look at her with love, spend quality time with her by doing khidmah (help) for her. Cook for her, help her with her chores, do not ask her, just do it. You never know whose turn is next to meet Allah (The Most High). Take the duas (supplications) from your mother. Do not bother her by making her ask you every single time to make a cup of tea at the end of the day when she needs tea at that time. For the ladies who are married, do not worry. You still can do khidmah (work) for your mother by making duas for her ALL the time. Your duas will become a great reward for yourself as well! In sha Allah (if Allah wills). When I lost my mother, I realized that I had a lot to say to her, that I had a lot to talk to her but I cannot anymore. I had always got busy with my kids, or something always happened when we were trying to talk and now I miss her so much that words cannot describe. Always try to take time out to sit down and think about the struggles of your mother and appreciate her. Otherwise, it will be too late. And the best thing you can do for your parents is to make dua (supplications) for them. And do remember them in every single dua. We cannot pay them back the way they did for us. That is why Allah (The Most High) counts and sees how much we try and make an effort. Allah (The Most High) will see how much you adore your mother and will reward you accordingly in sha Allah (if Allah wills). May Allah ﷻ forgive our mistakes and carelessness if any applicable towards the duties of being a child. Ameen. And may Allah ﷻ forgive our parents. Ameen. “My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.” [Verse 17:24] |
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