A house that never stays clean and children who have a mind of their own. What can you do to stay calm? You have finally finished the dishes and the kitchen looks tidy, but the surprise is waiting for you in the living room. Your blood pressure is raised so much that you lose control over yourself. The floor you wiped just moments ago is littered with toys, biscuit pieces and the juice spilt all over. Being a mother, the biggest challenge I face is being patient at so many such incidents in everyday life and I believe it’s the same with the majority of us. Let me admit: I FAIL in most of the cases! For us, patience is extremely important since Allah has mentioned it several times in the Qur’an and the rewards for it is really quite tempting. وَاصْبِرُوا ۚ إِنَّ اللَّـهَ مَعَ الصَّابِرِينَ and be patient. Indeed, Allah is with the patient. (Qur’an 8:46) إِلَّا الَّذِينَ صَبَرُوا وَعَمِلُوا الصَّالِحَاتِ أُولَـٰئِكَ لَهُم مَّغْفِرَةٌ وَأَجْرٌ كَبِيرٌ Except for those who are patient and do righteous deeds; those will have forgiveness and great reward. (Qur’an 11:11) Many more such verses enhance the importance of patience. As mothers it is very clear to us that being patient is not just about controlling our anger to be a good mother, but firstly it is to obey Allah. Here are some smart tactics to save yourself from regrets: So, the next time you see spilt water, cushions on the floor or the sofa being used as a trampoline, take a deep breath and say Alhamdullilah.
A final note: وَالْمَلَائِكَةُ يَدْخُلُونَ عَلَيْهِم مِّن كُلِّ بَابٍ سَلَامٌ عَلَيْكُم بِمَا صَبَرْتُمْ ۚ فَنِعْمَ عُقْبَى الدَّارِ … And the angels will enter upon them from every gate, [saying], “Peace be upon you for what you patiently endured. And excellent is the final home.” (Qur’an 13:23-24) What more do we want? I pray that you and I be able to make an effort to be more patient. Ameen. Assalam Alaikum (Peace be with you) Bismillah Al-Rahman Al-Raheem (In the name of Allah, Most Gracious Most Merciful) Let us learn how our mothers utilized themselves to provide for us. Mothers are one of the blessings from Allah (The Most High) and we cannot compare this naimah (blessing) with anything else in our lives. No matter how much or how many valuables you behold in your life right now. Your mother will always be your first love. When we were young, no matter how much we say or express our love for our mothers, we will not know the true beauty of motherhood until we become a mother ourselves. The sacrifices. The ups and downs that come along the journey. The struggle our mothers did in taking care of us. SubhanAllah (Glory be to Allah). For those who do not have mothers from the time they remembered or lost their mothers or for those who have been apart from their mothers for some reasons, do not lose your hopes because one day you will see your mother and hug her again in sha Allah (if Allah wills). For those whose mothers are still alive, cherish the moments spent with her. Look at her with love, spend quality time with her by doing khidmah (help) for her. Cook for her, help her with her chores, do not ask her, just do it. You never know whose turn is next to meet Allah (The Most High). Take the duas (supplications) from your mother. Do not bother her by making her ask you every single time to make a cup of tea at the end of the day when she needs tea at that time. For the ladies who are married, do not worry. You still can do khidmah (work) for your mother by making duas for her ALL the time. Your duas will become a great reward for yourself as well! In sha Allah (if Allah wills). When I lost my mother, I realized that I had a lot to say to her, that I had a lot to talk to her but I cannot anymore. I had always got busy with my kids, or something always happened when we were trying to talk and now I miss her so much that words cannot describe. Always try to take time out to sit down and think about the struggles of your mother and appreciate her. Otherwise, it will be too late. And the best thing you can do for your parents is to make dua (supplications) for them. And do remember them in every single dua. We cannot pay them back the way they did for us. That is why Allah (The Most High) counts and sees how much we try and make an effort. Allah (The Most High) will see how much you adore your mother and will reward you accordingly in sha Allah (if Allah wills). May Allah ﷻ forgive our mistakes and carelessness if any applicable towards the duties of being a child. Ameen. And may Allah ﷻ forgive our parents. Ameen. “My Lord! bestow on them thy Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood.” [Verse 17:24] |
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